My Dominant Lesbian Girlfriend: Lesbian Romance and Domination

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The most consistent descriptor in the open-form answer descriptions was that of the top being “in control” or “in charge” of the sexual encounter, or otherwise “leading the way” or being the “more active” or “dominant” partner. This Pride Month, I wanted to help the baby gays by bringing you this edugaytional resource to help you learn the lingo of the queer community. I STRONGLY identify as a Femme Top,” wrote one, “and bring many elements of that gender subversion into my dominance. In a group chat on the topic, A pointed out: “Submission is a fucking GIFT: just because I’m bottoming for you doesn’t mean I’m your submissive. How masculine/feminine energies and presentations actually play out in bed and attraction — including the impact of dysphoria on sex — is a larger topic for a later post.

A dominant is more clearly involved in a power exchange, while a top might just be the more active partner,” said one non-binary dom on our survey. According to Carolyn: “On one hand, talking about a ‘Dom shortage’ implies a sort of commodification of Doms that turns subjects into objects; leads to objectification; and belies the fact that among people of any sexuality it’s challenging to find a person who is a skilled and respectful counterpart to whatever sex or play you’re trying to have, who is good at communicating, whose relationship orientation matches up with yours, and who you also find hot intellectually and emotionally and sexually in both immediate and deeper ways. When businesses and corporations profit off selling things like Pride merchandise without passing on proceeds to LGBTQIA+ organisations.I’ll also be including alternative spelling (in italics) used on platforms like tiktok to avoid homophobic censorship. On our survey, there were as many different definitions of this distinction as there are bountiful bottoms in this pure earth, but aside from the eroticization of power play, the majority drew the line around kink (“a submissive is a kinky bottom”) or between a physical position versus a state of mind. A bottom likes to be directed because it’s easier to please those who know what they want,” said the only bottom to identify as a switch in kink play. She believes the link between appearance and gender performance and one's sexuality should be disrupted, because the way someone looks should not define their sexuality. The “giving” dynamic isn’t just about preferring to perform specific sexual acts, it’s about deriving pleasure from doing so.

It’s been my recent discovery that there are baby dykes* out there running around wondering why now that they are with a woman, they’re still feeling uncomfortable in their own skin. She had a very popular personal blog once upon a time, and then she recapped The L Word, and then she had the idea to make this place, and now here we all are!

I started out a blue jean straight girl and discovering I am bi embraced what I thought was androgyny (both, rather than neither) and discover that most would see me as soft butch.

I trust AS, and therefore I trust that you shared quotes and numbers that were representative of the responses, and did so in a format you felt was right.Origin: Due to the normal extreme mass of these ‘ladies,’ it has often been assumed that locomotion could only be facilitated with the assistance of a powerful Diesel engine. studies, more conservative homophile organizations of the 1950s, such as the Daughters of Bilitis, discouraged butch–femme roles and identities.

Labels have been tailored to be more descriptive of an individual's characteristics, such as "hard butch" "gym queen", "tomboy femme", and "soft stud". I’m so glad most everyone at work has gone home by now, this gave me quite a moment of uncontrolled mirth. I’m really grateful for this post/series because my gf and I (mostly I) have trouble talking about and articulating our sexual identities and desires, and I think these will be really good conversation starters. citation needed] In the New York City lesbian community, a butch may identify herself as AG (aggressive) or as a stud.Often the “dominant” partner in a lesbian relationship, and especially of a butch/femme lesbian relationship. A femme lesbian who never tries to flip or “melt” her Stone Butch lover, but prefers to pleasure her lover by taking a passive role in sex.