He's Not Lazy: Empowering Your Son to Believe In Himself

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I wish I’d read it earlier when my son was in elementary or middle school as I would’ve adjusted my approach and response in handling some of his struggles with motivation sooner, but I still appreciated learning several tips that I can begin to implement now. Parents, college students, teachers, and psychologists will gain a better understanding of the problem and know how to help teen boys who are going through it have a successful school career. Is this what YOU want for him so YOU can feel good about what a great parent you are or so his achievements can make up for something we wished we did in our own childhoods? Not only helps to understand what our boy goes through, why he behaves the way he behaves but gives plenty of practical advice. It’s a confusing and challenging world out there, and our adolescents need our help to learn to navigate it.

If you do everything for your child, and don't let him fail, he will stop doing anything, because 1. If this is your son, then this is the book to help you step back, figure out what’s going on, and get yourself off the treadmill that is sustaining his behaviour. They give up, not because they are lazy but because they don’t have the skills and brain ‘executive functions’ yet to cope.Almost everything he wrote my wife and I were like “I’d never actually say that but I get his point kind of.

The 103 third parties who use cookies on this service do so for their purposes of displaying and measuring personalized ads, generating audience insights, and developing and improving products. It's written for middle/upper class parents who have somehow managed to find themselves with nearly no idea how adolescent development works. I could clearly identify with the explanations of the author in the causes of underachievement in teenage boys. This is especially true for boys who are known to be very smart -- instead of dealing with the anxiety and potential of failure, he takes the "opt-out" route.It has been dog eared, highlighted, written in and parts have been reread as I reflect on my kid, my beliefs, my parenting. The parents' change in perspective is the most important key; in the process, they will help their sons create self-sufficient, self-regulated plans. As the former Director of Outpatient Services at Newark Beth Israel Hospital and Associate Director at Family Connections, a mental health agency, he has supervised and trained numerous clinicians in family and child therapy.