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These fun BDSM activities are a gentle way of experimenting and will allow you to enter the fascinating world of dominance and submission. How to Intensify Dominance & Submission During Play Time If you’re looking for a flogger that works well for beginners and pros alike, suede floggers are the best choice. They leave an erotic and sensual feel while producing a sound that’s sure to awaken your senses. Closing: The Importance of Aftercare Of course, if you’re new to the world of being a submissive, it’s not as easy as going on Tinder to find the right match, says Coates. Few things in life are as misunderstood as BDSM. The sex practice is often accused of being physically or mentally harmful, something that only survivors of abuse embrace, or abnormally kinky. But it's important for beginners to understand that it’s actually none of those things.

There is a common misconception that Dom/sub dynamics are inherently pain-focused or violent. This just isn’t true. A 2019 review states that BDSM can offer a safe space for people healing from trauma, PTSD, and abuse. Moreover, therapists may use practices such as bondage as a tool to help couples working on power dynamics. This may help couples experience relinquishing and assuming control in the bedroom before they do in other parts of their relationship. Improves sexual and mental health To engage in safe and healthy bondage sex, all parties should discuss and negotiate each other’s boundaries and roles and note any activities that are off-limits. All participants should give mutual consent on what each finds comfortable and confident experimenting during the session. Agree on a safeword The number one rule for tying safely is to ALWAYS have safety shears within reaching distance,” Sydona says. “The second is to be able to communicate to your partner well, both as both a top [person doing the tying] and bottom [person being tied]. Being able to communicate explicitly and coherently before, during, and after a session is what keeps it as safe and enjoyable as possible.” Below, you’ll find a list of four BDSM acts that can be done in such a way that it aligns with your kinks, interests, and intrigues. It’s time to enjoy the sheer joy of BDSM , no matter how vanilla or kinky you are!In short, it’s a way of showing kindness and sensuality in such a way that both partners know they’re important and respected. With that, both can walk away feeling satisfied and not discarded or used. https://www.issm.info/sexual-health-headlines/the-biological-context-of-bdsm?highlight=WyJiZHNtIl0= Brown, A., et al.(2019). A systematic scoping review of the prevalence, etiological, psychological, and interpersonal factors associated with BDSM. Botta, D., et al.(2019). Are role and gender related to sexual function and satisfaction in men and women practicing BDSM? [Abstract]. But what is life (and sex) like for a woman who is firmly entrenched in the BDSM community as a submissive? Well, according to one sub called Monieau, it’s far from what misconceptions and stereotypes would lead outsiders to believe.

Why not start off your next sexual encouner with a massage, rubbing the oil, well, wherever you want. Sex in a car Before you get into BDSM, you need to work out what you really want from submission. If you have a sign saying you’re here for the taking, people will take advantage of it.’ This does not mean that the sub does not have power. Everything is highly negotiated and supplemented by the use of a safe word. A safe word is a non-sexual agreed upon word or phrase that indicates the sub has reached their limit. Once a safe word is invoked, the play stops - either entirely or for a break. The importance of aftercare post-kink play. However, before you start your bondage fun, you need to talk to your partner. Don't just suddenly blindfold or gag someone with exploring the idea with them first, and I certainly wouldn't do both at the same time on the first occasion but try each one out separately.

Keen to give kink a try? The key to exploring your kinky side starts with open, honest communication and fun! So sit down and talk about what turns you on with your other half before you get started. Discussing your sexual desires with a trusted partner can also serve as foreplay and be seriously steamy. So talk about it, plan what you hope to explore together and enjoy the ride! As long as you're all consenting adults, anything goes and the world is your rubber lobster: 1. Sensory deprivation

There’s something undeniably arousing about being tied up or tying a partner up in the bedroom. Not only does it change the power structure, facilitating elements of domination and submission, but it also evokes powerful emotions. There’s an immense amount of vulnerability and trust required when sexually bound. These reasons (among others) help to explain why so many people fantasize about BDSM (remember, the B stands for “bondage”). In fact, a 93% of men and 96% of women have fantasized about some aspect of BDSM before. Besides oftentimes being inaccurate, the portrayals of BDSM you’ve seen in film or porn are probably not going to work for you (they tend to be a tad...extreme). Richmond recommends reading up on BDSM, taking a class to learn about moves and scenarios you can play out with your partner(s), and bringing in a sex therapist if need be, so you can figure out what your version of the practice looks like. Ian Kerner, PhD, LMFT, is a licensed psychotherapist, sexuality counselor, and the New York Times best-selling author of She Comes First. Holvoet, L., et al. (2017). Fifty shades of Belgian gray: The prevalence of BDSM-related fantasies and activities in the general population [Abstract].

Negotiating boundaries within a Dom/sub dynamic. 

The conversation you have after the experience is just as much a part of sex as the acts themselves,” says Richmond. This conversation is a chance to debrief by asking your partner(s) about what they enjoyed most and what they were thinking when you, say, lightly spanked them. Surprisingly, you may have already added a few BDSM aspects into your bedroom without even knowing it! This could be when one partner pins the other down, bites or scratches skin, or pulls their partner’s hair. A 2019 systematic scoping review suggests that it allows people to assert dominance by giving them total control and power over the situation. Similarly, a 2020 study notes that many practitioners find the giving, taking, and exchanging of power to be sexually arousing. Establish boundaries: informed consent is the most important aspect of exploring kinky sex, so lay the ground rules before you get started. Communication is key, so talk through with your partner(s) about what you are and aren’t expecting, and where your limits are. When you start to understand how common some of these sexual interests are, it can help lead to self-acceptance," Lehmiller says in Men's Health Best. Sex. Ever."And self-acceptance is the first step to get over any shame you may feel regarding your kinky desires."

When approaching your partner about trying out bondage, you don’t need to be coy or apologetic about it. Simply start off by telling your partner you think bondage is interesting and that you’d be curious to try it with them specifically, says Brame. If they haven’t explored this type of play in the past, they might have some questions. So after stating your interest, spend some time researching bondage together, so you can tailor the details of your sexperimentation to your mutual desires, Brame suggests. Bondage can be a light-hearted and playful way in which to tease a partner, or it can be used to reinforce strict rules and maintain dominance. In fact, for the more serious bondage players, a body that is bound can be seen as a beautiful work of art. But we all have to start somewhere… How to Add Bondage into Play Time As I grew older, I came to terms with conventional ideas of male and female roles. I became a full-on feminist. It’s like I did a 180, which ended up being a 360. If all this BDSM stuff is brand new to you, first of all: Congrats on taking the first step to indulging your kinky curiosity. BTW, you're not alone in wanting to try it. BDSM is the most-fantasized kink in America, with 93% of men and 96% of women having fantasized about it before, according to research by Justin Lehmiller, Ph.D., Kinsey Institute researcher and member of the Men's Health Advisory Panel. Rehor, J. E., et al. (2015). Sensual, erotic, and sexual behaviors of women from the “kink” community.

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ICYDK, bondage is a form of intimate and/or sexual play that involves consensually restraining or tying up someone for the sake of pleasure. The ‘B’ in BDSM, bondage is a way for people to explore giving up or taking power, add an element of ~spice~ to their sex lives, and introduce a new flavor of intimacy into their interpersonal relationships, says Elle Chase, CSE, ACS, a certified sex educator and author of Curvy Girl Sex: 101 Body-Positive Positions To Empower Your Sex Life. “Incorporating consensual bondage into sex play builds and fortifies essential trust between partners,” she explains, as it “requires that communication be deft and clear.” For this reason, bondage play is recommended for partners looking to improve their communication. Apart from the bonding aspect, some people just simply like to be tied up because it turns them on. “The beautiful paradox of bondage is that many people feel sexually freer when they are tied up,” says Gloria Brame, PhD, a certified sexologist and BDSM expert based in Athens, Georgia. “They have no choice but to submit to the wonderful sensations they can experience in a bottom role.” How do I practice bondage safely? 1. Do your own research.