Stop Walking on Eggshells: Taking Your Life Back When Someone You Care About Has Borderline Personality Disorder

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You had a crappy meeting at work, you’re stressing about money, or you’re just having one of those days. My heart stopped when I found this book on my now Ex boyfriend's bookshelf. He came home from work to find me reading it and the expression on his face was absolute shame and horror. It disappeared the next day when he left for work, but the damage was already done.

Because here’s the thing – you’re not as good at reading your partner as you think you are. People in relationships misread and misunderstand each other far more than they realise. * Remind your partner that being honest and listening attentively is better than walking on eggshells. 5. Set boundaries You may internalize their reactions, believing that it is your fault if they become upset, angry, or disappointed. This mindset can lead to constant self-blame and a sense of being trapped in a caretaker role. You need to seek a partnership where the thought of your partner’s reaction does not put you on guard. When you know your emotional needs, finding a partner to help those needs will become easier. 3. Reach Out To Your Loved Ones This is a fantastic resource for anyone interested in what life with a person with BPD can be and mostly is like as it gives examples of mild, moderate and severe behavior they may engage in or feelings they may experience and how to better understand the reasons for it but mainly how to deal with the great confusion and suffering their loved ones or wayfarers go through.

This is the hardest part of this process. You need to face your fears and doubts. Stand up for yourself and refuse another moment of these toxic behaviors.

Assert: Assert your limits, making them simple. For example, you can say, “I do care about your feelings, and I do want to resolve our difficulties. When things get intense and we start yelling at each other, I may need to stop the conversation and return to it later when we have both calmed down. This is something I need to do to make myself feel better.” One of the signs you’re walking on eggshells is that you are deeply unhappy, despite seemingly being with the one you love.

Nina W. Brown, EdD, professor and Eminent Scholar at Old Dominion University in Norfolk, VA; and author of Children of the Self-Absorbed Read this trying to make sense of a past relationship that started and stopped over a dozen times in a few months. Roller coaster only begins to describe what was going on and not only did the relationship end poorly, I struggled trying to understand what had happened. One moment the world was fine, and the next everything was wrong and couldn't be fixed. I was alternately the best thing that had ever happened or the most colossal screwup. There was no in between and the switch could happen over something so innocuous as not eating mashed potatoes. Do you believe that if you show how much you love this person? That soon, they will just realize their mistake and change? Isolation refers to a pattern of behavior where your partner exhibits control by intentionally isolating you from friends, family, or activities that you enjoy.