The Way of the Superior Man: A Spiritual Guide to Mastering the Challenges of Women, Work, and Sexual Desire (20th Anniversary Edition)

Product Information

The only way for a relationship to work between a man and a woman is for them to respect each other’s priorities. The more masculine a man is, the more important his mission is to him; the more feminine a woman is, the more important an intimate relationship is to her. How one can solve this “primary asymmetry” through something more than just “taking it into account,” we don’t know. But one must—for a relationship to work. That’s because underneath our know-it-all exterior, men actually don’t have a clue and we’re desperate for answers. We’ll do just about anything for approval from women, and deep inside our egos all want to be seen as the “superior man” — but superior to whom? Other men? Are we really playing into the same kind of unhealthy win-lose competition model that is already the cause of so many of our mental health problems? It is dark the masculine force; if you disown it, you are kinking its hose and. thus, you weaken your masculine capacity to face the unknown while still being able to love your woman. In an effort to land in a neutral middle, men diminish their masculinity, and women diminish their femininity. We feel uneasy about who we are and how we should be, so we’re driven by discomfort and fear. When we suppress a core aspect of ourselves, we become unable to be genuine and open, so we can’t relax into the fullness of love. Neutralizing our essence diminishes our intimacy, our sense of purpose, and our ability to connect with our internal selves.

Don’t deny your sexual attraction to a woman, but don’t disperse it in mental fantasies as well. Let it circulate through your body and fill your heart.A founding member of the Integral Institute and one of Watkins Spiritual 100, he has written ten books that have been so far published in more than 25 languages worldwide.

Approach everything openly, wholeheartedly, and lovingly; this is how you give your fullest gifts without regret. It’s satisfying to give your best, and that satisfaction lets you engage more fully because you’re not distracted by a feeling that you’re wasting your time. Being open allows you to discover your deepest truth. It was 2011, and I was at the first of two 3-day intensives with David Deida, the author of “The Way of the Superior Man”, the best-selling book with an almost cult-like following (minus the “almost”). So if things are not going well between you two then she will not be as radiant, joyful, and happy as she could be. You are in charge of being the man that she fantasizes about by being dominant, impeccable, and ravishing her emotionally and physically ensuring that she remain joyful and feminine. #9 Your woman is NOT your priorityAs an added benefit, uncoupling gender and polarity pushes people’s comfort zones, because our culture shames men for feminine behavior and women for masculine behavior.

Another way to put it is that your woman is responsible for your erection (haha). In essence, she’s responsible for the sexual flow, intimacy, and energy of the relationship. This book,” writes Deida at the beginning of The Way of the Superior Man, “is a guide for a specific kind of newly evolving man. This man is unabashedly masculine—he is purposeful, confident, and directed, living his chosen way of life with deep integrity and humor—and he is sensitive, spontaneous, and spiritually alive, with a heart-commitment to discovering and living his deepest truth.” The journey of life is about constantly discovering deeper truths and consistently re-evaluating and reorganizing yourself around them. Live from the stable internal core of your being instead of focusing yourself around your daily tasks and responsibilities. It’s about welcoming things like beating our chests and howling at the moon, but not thinking that’s who we have to be because we were born with a Y chromosome. The book posits every person, regardless of gender or sexual orientation, has masculine and feminine energy. And it is the job of men to harness the power of their masculine energy.The feminine side of your woman thrives on praise and support; this is the gift you can give to help her grow into more fully being her best self. Here was a man I learned so much from, that answered so many of my questions about “being a man”, and I just wanted to meet him and say “your book meant a lot to me” — but there were rules.

The more familiar you become with your woman and your world, the more your desire and interest in them wane; the excitement of discovery fades, and they become lifeless and unattractive. You have mastered women and the world when no desire either to avoid or attain sways your loving or limits your freedom. Don’t believe the literal content of a woman’s complaint. Just like babies’ cries, a woman’s complaints are warning bells and indications of a mood. Act accordingly, and never steer away from your purpose. Spend at least an hour every day this week doing one of these things, despite your duties and constraints. Give your fullest gift today so you can go to bed knowing that you lived with the maximum amount of creativity, courage, and giving.minutes ago 5 Vital Dos and Don’ts When You Are Newly Single What to do and what not to do when you are fresh out of a relationship. The Superior Man approaches all situations in the same way: openly, lovingly, and wholeheartedly. This is how he achieves superior results in all that he does. The first key to becoming a Superior Man is authenticity, and the Superior Man knows there’s no better time to live authentically than right now. He doesn’t wait for his finances to be more secure, for his children to move out, or for his woman to change— he’s willing to do what’s necessary to give his fullest gift in every moment. However, David Deida has done the thinking and he has done the struggling. His work answers some very fundamental questions that those of us on the path can use to save time and energy. In other words, his work helps those of us that are a bit confused allowing us to accelerate our growth and focus on other areas of knowledge. A man is responsible for leading the direction of growth and opening his woman to a higher depth of love and openness of mood.