The Mood Hoover

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If the negativity continues, listen but don’t collude, nod and show empathy without feeding into the downward spiral about how awful the world is.

They're moaning about how much life admin and housework they have to do but absolutely won't allow partner, adult kids or wider family to do anything to help as it won't be done right. From a subjective, personal point of view, I think there are two ways of dealing with such people and in turn, such situations; you can both ignore it and just go with the interaction, or you can challenge it. The penny dropped for me, so when I am sharing the Art of Brilliance’s message, I love to see nodding heads. Encouraging self reflection and honesty may help them understand how they are perceived to others and they may make positive changes on their own. I don't know how many people over the years who've acknowledged they try give them a wide berth, avoiding social occasions and family celebrations purely because they can't stand who they are, what they stand for and how they treats other people.There was the little boy's ice cream, the glorious music at the concert hall and the zebra's stripes. If someone constantly uses you as a sounding board for their negativity, it’s critical to set boundaries. Perhaps challenging their behaviour is a good thing for the affected person, but getting to the root cause of such behaviour, I’m sure, will also be more beneficial in the long run. Perhaps they have always been like this and it isn’t realised until much later on in life that this is the effect they have on conversations and interactions. So, I started to learn how to be a trainer and continued io develop and learn and enjoy having a positive impact in people’s lives .

But this wasn’t with any intention, other than to say thank you for the impact the book The Art of Being Brilliant had had on his life. Heighten this by directly referring to specific examples of the behaviour not aligning to the values and ensuring they understand these are as much a part of an employee’s performance as tangible outputs. To give mood hoovers an accurate description, they are people who suck the energy, life, and positivity out of a person and replace it with their own negativity. You are planning to 'get through' the next 2 years and then you'll have time and energy to really deal with the issue. He seems like a huffy arse, that is wearing and annoying, and communication obviously isn’t great, but I’m not seeing abusive necessarily.Focusing on staying positive in a life where there may be many people who come in and challenge it can be tough, but by being aware of our own personal ways of doing this can allow for us to not be as affected by other people’s moods. People are concerned about many things, and reactive people tend to try and change all of these things. Now, to be clear, when I talk about overly negative people , I don’t mean those who are occasionally negative – we all are from time to time. With no outstanding issues of any merit to excuse mood-hoovering behaviour then it really becomes important to manage this fairly but firmly. Stan and his machine seemed destined to go on forever until he spotted a young girl blowing a HUGE pink bubble with her bubble gum whilst she sat on the bus.

Her head was constantly down and rather than viewing the world in any kind of positive light, she seemed to view everything through gloomy, grimy glasses.If addressing the challenge of a mood hoover feels outside of your comfort zone, or you want help developing and embedding your people values, we have a wealth of experience and solutions to support you and there’s rarely a situation we haven’t successfully dealt with before.

Whether a person ignores the way another person influences them or not depends on their own stance within the relationship; whether they believe it is possible to challenge a person’s way of social interaction. that’s not to say he isn’t allowed to be tired but it’s every single day and he only works 4 days s week at the moment, normal hours. Whilst a charity might cover employee attitude by defining a value as ‘Being kind‘ a different type of business might say ‘Consideration of colleagues’ or ‘Respecting others’. Kicking the can down the road by planning to get through the next two years somehow is not going to help you nor for that matter your children. Offer encouragement when they express positive thoughts or behaviours, and acknowledge when they try to be more positive.

I think it is vital to understand and remember that our own mental health is extremely important, and therefore if there are situations that are creating difficulties within our lives, they should be looked into to try and come up with a solution to change anything that isn’t liked. Offer to listen and show your support, for as long as it isn't impacting negatively on you, but also encourage them to seek professional help from a coach or therapist.